Reply To: NO! You don't understand. Home › Welcome to the ADDitude Forums › For Adults › Emotions & Shame › NO! You don't understand. › Reply To: NO! You don't understand. November 12, 2018 at 9:43 am #103590 BethBeadsParticipant Ps. I do not “do funerals” because funerals are for the living not the dead. Once im dead thats just BIOLOGICAL debris. My “self” isnt in there.