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Hello.Firstly, make sure you are well in front of a deficit of attention. It certainly does not belong to the teacher to diagnose attention deficit, but you can and must raise questions. Make sure that a professional has recently examined the child’s eyesight and hearing and excluded any other medical problems. Make sure that you have done an adequate assessment. Ask yourself until you are convinced you have done everything. But the responsibility for all these examinations lies with the parents, not with the teacher who supports the process.
Ask the child what can help him. Some children are often very intuitive. They can tell you, if you ask them, how they can learn better. They are often too embarrassed to give information without being asked, for fear of seeming too eccentric. But try to sit with the child alone, and ask him how he learns best. Often the child himself is by far the best expert of his learning. Surprisingly, most of the time, one ignores or neglects one’s opinions.
Post the rules. Write them clearly and highlight them. The children will be reassured, knowing what is expected of them.
These children do not tolerate transitions and unexpected changes. They quickly become confused. Take special care to prepare transitions well in advance. Announce what will happen, and then give repeated warnings as the time of the activity approaches.
Repeat the instructions. Write the instructions. Discuss guidelines. Repeat the instructions. Repeat the instructions. These kids need to hear the same tips more than once.
Eliminate or reduce the frequency of timed evaluations. These timed tests have little educational value and do not really allow children with attention deficit to show their knowledge.
As much as possible, be sure to highlight any form of success. These children are experiencing so much failure that they need to be viewed in a positive way. This point can not be overemphasized; these children need and benefit from the praise we make of them. They like encouragement. They drink from it and emerge from it. Without this, they return to their shells and lose their vitality. Very often, the devastating side of AD HD does not come from the condition itself, but from the damage it causes to self-esteem. Also, it is necessary to lavish many encouragements and congratulations to these children.
Help the child create a personal schedule that will follow school hours; you will thus prevent the “delivery to tomorrow” which characterizes the deficit of attention.