“What good is an education if every day you are made to feel inadequate and broken?”
Yes. Yes! YES!!
As parents, we get that teachers are grossly overworked and under-appreciated. We understand that behavior needs to be reported to us. What we take issue with a calling out a student’s weakness to THEM every day and not balancing it with positive praise and calling out what they did right. This type of behavior plan (a tattle book) is an attempt to control behavior through fear. Studies have shown that this approach leads to low self-esteem and also is likely to cause mental health struggles, like depression and anxiety, as adults.
When behavior is a problem, let the parent know in an email or a conversation. Sending a child home every day with a book that calls out all they’ve done wrong and very little of what they do right is just cruel.
ADDitude Community Moderator, Parenting ADHD Trainer & Author, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism