I’m like this as well, recently diagnosed adhd (though the school apparently told my mom I had it when I was young…just that it was mild enough to not need treatment). I am EXTREMELY extroverted and into people. I also pick up on micro cues in tone, body language, implied messaging etc. I’d say my mom (who likely also has it, undiagnosed) and are both like this. Hold grudges. Are stubborn about being the one to try and make peace if we feel the transgression is primarily on their end. I’m not really sure if this is an ADHD thing or some other personality trait. I understand that hyper-reactivty and more extreme emotions and irritability are not uncommon with adhd-ers.