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My son and I wee just recently diagnosed with adhd inattentive type and I am sure my 5 yr old daughter has it too…I spent the better part of my son’s first 8 yrs and most of my daughters life yelling or getting frustrated, being late, overwhelmed and when my son was 2 3/4 we took him to a counselor who told me I have control issues…that was a swing n miss for her…then we spen a year with a counselor (my husband and I doing marriage counseling) and my son doing counseling…they said he showed markers but not to worry…another swing n a miss…now that we know what’s going on I went through the regret and wish I had, I should have moments, to the hyper focused learn everything and make changes…I still get frustrated and raise my voice and recently my husband has started reading about it so we are getting better…I think the biggest thing that has helped it starting with me and what my strengths are and really what I can’t do…what I can’t do I just tell my husband “I can start the wash but I need you to fold it and put it away…or I can start the dishwasher but I need you to unload it…and with the kids I did a simple routine for morning, after school, and evening…we are still working on mastering the routine…and when all else fails I pray and thank god for all the blessings…and I also have taken this diagnosis as a super power and that’s what I teach the kids…but even super powers have limitations so we do what we can give ourselves grace for what we can’t…I try to be less perfectionist and more just completetionist (made up the word)…you are a great mom…and unique for your family just tap into what you can do and what you can’t do give to someone else…oh and when you don’t know what to do before you blow take a mommy time out…just say mommy is taking a time out go in your room n count until you are calm enough to access what is important and what’s not (this is hard for us with adhd so take a moment…it’s ok. YOU are an amazing mom, grace patience and joy sister!!!