I can’t tell you how much I appreciate your post!
My husband just got diagnosed with ADD last week and I’ve since learned he lied when he said he wasn’t attracted to one of his female friends. This is the second time he’s been dishonest with me (and maybe even himself) about his feelings for a female friend. And he’s adamantly said he doesn’t want to give up having female friends.
I struggle because I know he’s a good guy and for the first 4 years of our relationship he didn’t even keep close female friends. But I’ve also been cheated on in a prior relationship and I struggle with trust enough without reasons to doubt.
I’m working on my trust issues and we’re starting counseling with an ADHD specialist next week, but your words really resonated with me. I want to forgive him, but I can’t keep living like this!