I’m currently going through the diagnosing process too. I never suspected a thing (I’ve never been particularly hyperactive, but I’ve been spacing out consistently at least since I was 4 years old) until I saw a documentary on Adderall abuse and decided to look into ADHD. Suddenly it was like my entire life made sense. My appointment to see a specialist is next month, and I’m gathering information together to explain my situation.
The way I look at going through the diagnosing process is that the WORST that can happen is the specialist turns around and tells you you’re neurotypical, i.e. you’re ‘normal’. It’s worst case, because it means that whatever your difficulties are, unfortunately you need to manage them alone, but you can still use a lot of the ADHD techniques as and where they help you manage your life. Not so scary for a worst case scenario, right?
Best case scenario? You get diagnosed ADHD. Why is that best case? Because if you had ADHD and remained UNdiagnosed, you’d still have all the same issues, but you’d have to struggle through them alone, when there is help available. An ADHD diagnosis only leads to benefits from you. There are medications that can help with it. Therapy, and courses, and techniques for managing it are available. Schools have to take it into account and offer you additional help. Workplaces that are NOT run by asshats will accommodate you however they can. But you can’t gain access to any of this until you’ve got a diagnosis. Even then, issues will still be issues, but with any luck, armed with all these goodies, you’ll be able to tackle them a lot easier than you do at the moment.
Have a word with your School Counsellor, explain your situation, and see where that takes you.
Here: https://add.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/adhd-questionnaire-ASRS111.pdf you can find a questionnaire based on the DSM-V criteria for diagnosing ADHD. What I’ve done is typed up all these questions, written my answers, and then given life examples for how they affect me day-to-day, or how I can remember they’ve affected me in the past. It’s a bunch of work, but fortunately I like writing and explaining things (As you can probably tell). But it’s a lot better to write things down than try to do it off the top of your head. My first appointment (the process in Norway is VERY different to the US) I was like: “Yeah, sometimes I forget stuff… It’s a bit hard to concentrate… Oh yeah, and I can be impulsive at times.” My next appointment, a month later, I’d written everything down and it was like: boom boom boom bang. Instead of taking another four appointments, my regular doctor sent everything straight through to the district health system that day.
TL:DR- Yes! Worst that can happen is you’re told you’re completely fine. Best case, you get help.