Wow!! You pretty much just summed up my life right now!! (Minus the job, I’m home with 3 kids under 5)
I have no advice, but knowing there is someone else who can relate is a slight relief, especiially coz I never seem to be able to explain things properly.
Ps. I signed up just now solely to have the ability to comment on your post (in reality I probably should have signed up 2 hours ago.. maybe then I wouldn’t have 78 tabs open right now.. ha, still would)