please do not let him call you these things. THERE SHOULD BE ZERO TOLERANCE FOR THIS KIND OF BEHAVIOR. HE WILL CONTINUE THIS AS AN ADULT AND noonE AND I MEAN NOONE WILL BE ACCEPTING OF IT OR UNDERSTANDING OF IT WHEN HE IS STILL LIVING AT HOME AND HE IS 37. trust me. i know.
AS FOR YOUR HUSBANDS RECOMMENDATION, he is correct, the boy cannot take much heed from you at this stage in his life> mothering time is over < even for a late maturing adhd boy> its time to ease him into mans world> consequences for his actions< and to start getting used to dissappointments and set backs<> and to become aware that his behavior will affect these things immediately and directly. if he learns now that his condition is something he must be responsible for< not you mom…then maybe he will leave the house in his twenties< and maybe have a shot at this struggle . its not for sure> if i were you > id let dad take over> he is lucky hes got one>