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Q: Why Is My Child So Painfully Slow and Forgetful?

Forgetful children with ADHD leave behind homework, lose important (and expensive) things, and frustrate their parents when they’re late or unprepared or just slow. Punishment won’t help build up the executive function skills they need to improve. These parenting strategies will.

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Hey, Dads:
Does your son with ADHD often…

  • …lose things or forget things he needs?
  • …not know how to speed up when you’re in a rush?
  • …not seem to remember how to do things he’s done before?

Here’s the deal: These are all a result of his lagging executive function skills. If your son has ADHD, he has an “executive function developmental delay.” This is proven by science.

You cannot punish somebody into developing better executive function skills. Giving them consequences for things they forgot, or things they missed, or for making you late does not help them develop better executive function skills. The way he is going to improve his executive functioning is by implementing simple strategies that work and by being really positive and encouraging because getting frustrated and angry is not going to help…”

WATCH THE VIDEO BELOW FOR THE FULL ANSWER

Forgetful Kids with ADHD and Executive Dysfunction: Next Steps

1. Read This: 15 Memory Exercises for Forgetful Kids
2. Read This: What Is Executive Function Disorder?
3. Download This: 13 Parenting Strategies for ADHD Families


Ryan Wexelblatt, LCSW is the facilitator of the ADHD Dude Facebook Group and YouTube channel. Ryan specializes in working with males (ages 5-22) who present with ADHD, anxiety with ADHD, and learning differences; he is the one professional in the United States who specializes in teaching social cognitive skills to boys from a male perspective.

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Updated on March 17, 2020

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