How to Mend Your Emotional Safety Net
Family conflict often surges during holiday get-togethers. If you have ADHD, that stress can trigger emotional dysregulation and RSD. Securing emotional support from your partner is essential, but sometimes complicated. These tips will help.
Q: “I need more emotional support from my husband during the holiday season. He’s so busy with his extended family that he forgets about my needs. What can I do?”
Emotional Support 101: How to Handle Family Conflict at the Holidays
Take time to have an honest conversation with your partner in advance. Ask each other: “What can I do to help you feel safe and at ease during the holiday season?”
Then, get practical with planning . . .
Decide on a hand signal or code word you can use when feeling stressed around extended family. This way, your ally can cover for you when you need to take a break.
When you’re in the thick of it . . .
Try not to take your frustrations out on your support person. Say: “I’m not mad at you. I’m frustrated with the situation.”
And remember . . .
Your support person does not need to be a spouse; it can be a sibling or favorite cousin. Identifying a reliable ally before family events can help to make the holiday season a happy one.
Emotional Support for Family Conflict: Next Steps
- Read: Surviving the Holidays with ADHD – Help for Adults
- Self Test: Emotional Hyperarousal & Sensitivity – Do I Have This ADHD Symptom?
- Watch: ADHD Emotional Regulation Strategies
- Read: How ADHD in Adults Affects Relationships – Marriage Insights
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