Friendships

Building Your Network of Friends

It’s been said that we become the average of the five people we spend the most time with. So surround yourself with people who are upbeat and want the best for you.

Beth Main, ADHD coach and therapist
By Beth Main Verified Updated on July 23, 2021
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Four adults with ADHD stand outside with their arms on each others shoulders. They can no longer say, "I don't have any friends."
Four adults with ADHD stand outside with their arms on each others shoulders. They can no longer say, "I don't have any friends."

Everyone needs people they can count on. Having a support network can make the difference between surviving and thriving. A self-employed ADDer needs people to bounce ideas off of, to celebrate accomplishments, and to give a hug when she needs one.

Identify the people that you want in your network. It’s been said that we become the average of the five people we spend the most time with. So surround yourself with people who are upbeat and want the best for you. Who inspires you? Who helps you feel good about yourself?

Keep in touch with people as you build your network. Given our ADD tendency to lose track of time, schedule regular contact with them or months may go by before you realize it. Resist the tendency to isolate yourself. Reach out, instead of waiting for an invitation.

The best relationships involve giving and receiving. Offer your support to others and be a good listener. Celebrate victories and provide input when possible. Being there for others will increase the likelihood that they’ll be there for you.