Are You Enabling Your Child’s Won’t-Try-Anything-New Inflexibility?
When kids with ADHD refuse to try new things — like summer activities not involving a game console — they are displaying inflexibility, but also a fear of failure. Parents must not accommodate this behavior and allow the fear to grow, but instead expose their child to as many new experiences as possible.
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Q: “All of my son’s normal summer activities are canceled and he refuses to try anything new that I suggest. Do I force him to try new things, or do I let him play video games all summer long?”
A: “It’s not true that your son doesn’t like anything but video games; the truth is that you’ve been accommodating his inflexibility so that he thinks he doesn’t like anything but video games. It’s OK to make your son try new things; it’s OK to expose your son to new experiences that you think he will enjoy and that will help him. Kids with ADHD often say No to things that are new or unfamiliar, often because they fear they won’t be good at it… ”
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ADHD and Trying New Things: More Resources
1. Read This: How Do I Get My Son to Branch Out Beyond Video Games?
2. Read This: New, Strange Experiences Terrify My Child!
3. Read This: New Research Links Picky Eating to ADHD
Ryan Wexelblatt, LCSW is the facilitator of the ADHD Dude Facebook Group and YouTube channel. Ryan specializes in working with males (ages 5-22) who present with ADHD, anxiety with ADHD, and learning differences; he is the one professional in the United States who specializes in teaching social cognitive skills to boys from a male perspective.
Updated on June 24, 2020