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Q: How Do We Get the Lying to Stop?

Children with ADHD lie due to impulsivity, then they feel too ashamed and embarrassed to admit their mistake. Here, learn how to introduce accountability and truthfulness without disregarding the neurological forces working against your child.

Reviewed on May 17, 2019

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Q: “What can we do to lessen the lying that happens over everything from ‘Have you brushed your teeth?’ To ‘How are you getting on with your science project?’ I have always had high value for honesty, so I find the frequent fibbing to be really troubling.” — NLparent

A: “When your child lies, it’s impulsive. He’s not doing it maliciously or because he lacks a moral compass or because you haven’t taught him good values. He’s lying for a few reasons: One, it was the easiest answer to come out and then rather than correcting himself, he feels ashamed and just keeps going…”

Ryan Wexelblatt, LCSW is the facilitator of the ADHD Dude Facebook Group and YouTube channel. Ryan specializes in working with males (ages 5-22) who present with ADHD, anxiety with ADHD, and learning differences; he is the one professional in the United States who specializes in teaching social cognitive skills to boys from a male perspective.

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