"If You Love Me, Please Take This Seriously"

We don’t mean to hurt you. But we do — again and again. You feel like screaming, pulling out your hair, or lying in bed and crying, “When will she get it? Will this ever stop?” I don’t have all the answers, but I do know that if you love someone with ADHD you need to read this with an open mind.

7. Encourage Us to Achieve Our Goals

ADHD isn’t an excuse for irresponsibility. It’s a real medical condition and it means that what comes easy to you may be difficult for us. It doesn’t mean that we can’t do something; it means that it’s just much harder for us. Simple tasks that you take for granted — for example, opening mail, paying bills, and filing papers — are a triathlon of executive functions for us.

We understand why you may want to criticize and correct our behavior, but try to accept that that is our reality. Doubts and disappointments will not make these tasks any easier for us; but encouragement just might inspire us not to give up. So please acknowledge our successes — no matter how small. 

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