"My boyfriend has ADD and blows up each time I offer the slightest criticism."
by Michele Novotni, Ph.D.
Do certain situations always trigger his anger? If so, see if there's anything you can do differently. If getting out of the house on time is a major source of conflict, for example, try giving him a 15-minute warning.
And think carefully about the language you use when talking to him. Don't use "blaming" statements, such as "You are... " or "You did..." Use "I" statements, like "I feel..."
Find a non-threatening time to talk with him about his anger. If he doesn't take medication (part of managing anger is improving impulse control), suggest that he give it a try. Ask what support you can provide, and come up with strategies together. If you feel you need help, consult a therapist.