My 16-year-old is less interested in school than in sports and his part-time job. He has a lot of tests coming up, including the ACTs and SATs. What can I do get him motivated to focus on these?
by Jodi Sleeper-Triplett
Maybe your son is avoiding the tests because the idea of going to college is overwhelming him, or perhaps he doesn't trust his study skills. I recommend that you ask your son these questions:
> What are your thoughts about going to college? What excites you and what are your concerns? (Do this without inserting your own expectations into the conversation.)
> What is it about taking the ACTs and SATs that stops you in your tracks?
> Are you confident in your study skills in preparing for the ACTs and SATs?
> How might I support you in getting started with studying? The answer could be anything from "leave me alone" to "get me a tutor." The point is to show your support and listen to what your son says he needs.
> Could you use your athletic skills to move forward with your test prep?