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Ask the Parenting Expert:
Mary Fowler
Academic Struggles
Q:
"How should we discipline our 15-year-old when he gets poor grades? We had assumed that bad grades were enough of a consequence, but he doesn't seem to care."
A:
I've yet to meet a kid who doesn't care. The academic struggles children with ADHD experience aren't caused by a lack of discipline or effort. Your son may be having trouble living up to expectations because he lacks the right strategies and supports; his frustration may have led him to believe he can't do better, but I'm sure he'd like to.
Instead of looking for appropriate consequences, find ways to help him improve. Meet with each of your son's teachers (individually, if possible). Get details about your son's performance. Does he hand in assignments late or not at all? Fail to study? Not know what to study? Work with the teacher to solve each of his problems, assuring her that you will work with him at home.
Writer, educator and advocate Mary Fowler is author of Maybe You Know My Child and Maybe You Know My Teen.
 1 Comments:
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Posted by
Andrew Sheehan
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Sep 8 2009 @ 4:59 AM
I need help.
My name is Andrew Clyde Sheehan and I am 15.I really want to concentrate when it comes to work or studying!I've had ADHD ever since i was 3....My ADHD forces Insomnia,kiddishness,uncontrolable impulse,hyperness,extreme attention problems,and abrubtiveness.Those are some of the things I have to deal with.No medicine works for me.I will begin to talk so fast uncontrollably that one time my dad punched me in the face while he was helping me with my computer to make me bequiet.I will ask TONS of questing.I have trouble going to sleep.I tried taking medicine 5 hours before 8 pm.
Didn't work at all.If i don't go to sleep in 4-8 minutes of closing my eyes,I will get up and find something fun to do.Infact,it's 4:45 AM right now.I wasn't able to go to sleep for about 32 hours.When I finaly rested my head I woke up 3 hours later....I wanna go to sleep....I've been having memory loss due to the absorb amount of thoughts in my head.Whenever i do go to sleep and wake up I use EVERYTHING i have to control from Running around the house,Screaming a random word (Potato Mustard People!),and Jumping up and Down.I have had a horrible,aweful life,which worsens my ADHD.Before i went to a feild trip with my school to get to know them, I wanted to make a good first impression and to not let them think I am different like I always am.So i took 9 of my 15 milagram adhd medicines.You know what?I still was a little bit hyper and unable to concentrate.I feel as if I am in between Mentaly Handicap and Normal.Like,I know I can almost..Nevermind.But,I have gone threw my whole Miserable life with it failing at everything.I am in the 9th grade and suppose to be in the 10th.I wanna kill myself but I can't because I would go to hell.Mostly the only Joy I get out of life is Video games and Snewy.Snewy is my cat he is my best friend.He is also my longest living cat.He is almost the cutest cat in the world!Wanna see a picture of him?!You know if you put a h in vegetable it sounds like,Vege Hit A Bull.I made that up and i think it's sooo cool!!!I will say it over and over again.I like to watch Malcolm in the Middle.Oh yeah,whenever I have all these thoughts in my head I try to tell myself to shut up in my mind.But, sometimes I say Shut up outloud on accident.Ever tried cold organic iced green tea? It's really good if you sip on it!WJrior OK! well sorry I am ranting on now ,but if you have any advice I will gladly take it.
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