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Ask the Parenting Expert:
Chris Zeigler Dendy
Kid Caught Up in the Wrong Crowd
Q:
"My 16-year-old son runs with the wrong crowd. What can I do to discourage these friendships?"
A:
You really cannot dictate to a teen who his friends should be. But you can steer him toward friends you think will be positive influences. For example, you might plan a special outing, and casually ask him, “Would you rather invite Mark to join us, or Steve?” If you’re worried about what he and his friends are up to, encourage him to invite them over to your house—so you can keep an eye on them. And get to know his friends’ parents. Collectively, you may find it easier to encourage good behavior.
Some simple ways to stay close to your son are to have meals as a family, and to spend time together doing things he enjoys, like shooting hoops or playing a video game. A solid parent-teen relationship is the best insurance against serious teen rebellion.
Chris Dendy is the author of A Bird's Eye View of Life with ADD or ADHD. She lives in Cedar Bluff, Alabama.
 2 Comments:
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Posted by
HTHLuvr1stClassChulaVista
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May 23 2008 @ 5:31 PM
Friends and ADHD/ADD
Well, i can say a lot to tis situation. DO NOT TELL YOUR CHILD NOT TO HANG OUT WITH THESE KIDS.If you do they will sneak to hang with. But, talk your sons about their friends ask them why they choose to be friends with that praticular group or person. Ask about actitives that they like to do. and instead of reacting negativle tho their respones ask to know more, just listen!
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Posted by
Susan
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Jan 31 2008 @ 11:19 AM
Kid Caught up with the wrong crowd
My 13 year old son is going through the same thing. I am planning activities (we pay for as most his friends come from difficult circustances)Some don't want to get to know me, but love the "free" night life. This allows me to see them and watch the interaction.Then I find they are charging lunches to his account.The saying "keep your friends close and your enemies closer" It is emotionally wearing, financially wearing, but I keep thinking cheaper than drug rehab. Most have "d" averages with no future goals. No support at home. Not your "mother's pick of the year for friends" Then I read kids with LD are attracked to "interesting and exciting kids" so am trying to create interesting and exciting within livable structures.
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