Making Friends In High School


"I used to be pretty bossy. I'm in the ninth grade now, and I've matured a lot, but I still don't have friends. Do you have any advice?"


First, let me assure you that you're not alone. Many of my teen patients tell me how “left out” they feel at school. It sounds like the kids at school haven’t given you a second chance.

Find time to “be with” a group so they can recognize how you’ve changed. It’s always easier to talk to people when you share interests, so get involved with clubs or activities at school or in your community. One of my teen patients joined his school band. Another became friends with other riders at a (horse) stable.

Remember, to have a good friend, you must be a good friend.

Dr. Carol Brady is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Houston, Texas. She is also a specialist in school psychology and a well-regarded speaker in the areas of ADHD, children, and families in trauma and Tourette's Syndrome.

She received her Ph.D. from Louisiana State University and she is currently on the scientific advisory board for the Tourette's Syndrome Association and is an adjunct faculty at Baylor University and the University of Texas. Dr. Brady hopes to help children and families who deal with neurological/developmental disorders by serving as a regular columnist for ADDitude magazine.

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