Tired, Tense Parents

Q:

“My husband and I have ADHD, and our daughter was recently diagnosed with it. Helping her has increased tension between us. Can we calm things down?”

Melissa Orlov, a frequent ADDitude contributor with Dr. Ned Hallowell, writes about ADHD and marriage and offers relationship advice to adults with ADD.
A:

The most important thing you can do for you and your daughter about her attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADD/ADHD) diagnosis is to provide unconditional love. Laugh about the predicaments in which you find yourselves, and try not to compare your family to others. Give lots of hugs, and find things at which your daughter excels.

Getting organized and creating structure won’t be easy. Don’t be shy about enlisting a coach or an organizer to help out, as you work with your daughter to manage her symptoms.

Note: As you try to simplify your life, be sure not to eliminate together time or romance. It’s essential to your success as a couple.

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Melissa Orlov is a marriage consultant, specializing in helping ADHD-affected couples rebalance their relationships. She is a cum laude graduate of Harvard College and the author of the award-winning books: The ADHD Effect on Marriage and The Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD. She blogs for adhdmarriage.com and Psychology Today and has been interviewed by The New York Times, CNN, Today, US News and World Report, and CBS, among many others.

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