My Husband’s a Moonshot

The skills your husband uses at work are different from the skills he needs at home. On the home front, planning, organizing, completing chores, and listening to you and your children are more valuable than out-of-the-box thinking on projects that engage him.

To be a success at home, your husband needs to make sure he is treating his ADHD symptoms and is working to adopt habits that facilitate organization and sharing with you and your children. Encourage him to form a closer bond with his kids in ways that play to his strengths—building model trains or rockets, stargazing, playing Wii games, or reading ghost stories.

To be "married to the adult he is at work," you will need to downplay organization and neatness, and emphasize fun and intellectual activities, like those you shared when you were dating.