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Hyperfocus on Making Love?Filed Under: ADHD and Relationships, ADHD and Marriage, Hyperfocus and ADHD
How do I keep my attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) mind on romance in the bedroom when it goes a million miles an hour? Can I learn to hyperfocus on lovemaking to improve my sex life? If so, what do you suggest?
First, tell your partner that being inattentive is an ADHD symptom, not a reflection on his sexual desirability. Second, understand that most people with ADHD can’t snap into hyperfocus at a moment’s notice.
The following strategies, however, may help ADHD adults improve their sex lives:
- Talk with your doctor about short-acting ADHD medication. Take these meds a half-hour or more before you make love to “calm” your brain for four hours.
- Engage in foreplay before you get into the bedroom by sending him romantic notes and e-mails, giving him flowers, and taking showers together. These stimulating activities may focus your mind when you finally get together.
- Play soft, gentle music to relax your racing mind.
- Vary your lovemaking, so that it doesn’t become routine. Try new positions and make love in new venues. Playing sex games and using sex toys can also stimulate your interest in romance.
- If possible, exercise beforehand. Many studies show that aerobic physical activity focuses the brain. (Just remember to shower and freshen up before hitting the bedroom!)
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