Resentment Rising
Q:
My husband has ADHD. Through the years we’ve learned to communicate positively with each other. I don’t criticize him, and he lets me know when he thinks I’m being unreasonable. He recently forgot to pay the bill, and I could feel the old resentment bubbling up. How can I keep this from happening?
A:
It’s unrealistic to think that you won’t get angry with your spouse — or he with you. It happens. The key is to respond to your anger in more productive ways than you did in the past. Try the following four steps:
1. Acknowledge that you don’t feel angry most of the time—and put his recent misstep into perspective by recalling all the good things he has done.
Melissa is co-author of a blog on ADHD and marriage at adhdmarriage.com, and is currently writing Married to Distraction with Dr. Ned Hallowell and his wife, Sue.
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