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My husband has ADHD. Through the years we’ve learned to communicate positively with each other. I don’t criticize him, and he lets me know when he thinks I’m being unreasonable. He recently forgot to pay the bill, and I could feel the old resentment bubbling up. How can I keep this from happening?
It’s unrealistic to think that you won’t get angry with your spouse — or he with you. It happens. The key is to respond to your anger in more productive ways than you did in the past.
Try the following four steps:
1. Acknowledge that you don’t feel angry most of the time—and put his recent misstep into perspective by recalling all the good things he has done.
Melissa Orlov is a marriage consultant, specializing in helping ADHD-affected couples rebalance their relationships. She is a cum laude graduate of Harvard College and the author of the award-winning books: The ADHD Effect on Marriage and The Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD. She blogs for adhdmarriage.com and Psychology Today and has been interviewed by The New York Times, CNN, Today, US News and World Report, and CBS, among many others.
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