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Difficulties Getting Along With PeopleFiled Under: ADHD and Depression, ADHD Kids Making Friends, ADHD Parents
"I'm having difficulties getting along with people at work and at home. To complicate matters, I'm two months pregnant and highly emotional. What suggestions can you offer?"
I noticed that you said that you "no longer can make relationships function," which makes me wonder if at some point in time you were able to make relationships work. Pregnancy, alone, without ADHD can make it difficult to get along with others (It can be worse that PMS!). Perhaps your hormones are fluctuating, creating more stress than normal for you. If this were a new problem, it would seem that this is more closely related to pregnancy than to ADHD.
I suggest that you discuss the situation with your physician regarding the best ways to manage your stress. If however, there is a skill deficit that was present before you became pregnant, that has been impacting on your relationships at home and at work, it is important to begin with an assessment of your social strengths as well as specific areas that you need to grow in.
One such assessment is "The Novotni Social Skills Checklist" that is included in the back of my book, What Does Everybody Else Know That I Don't? (Specialty Press, 1999). There are over 88 different social skills and therefore 88 different social errors you could be making. You could also ask those close to you what they see as going wrong for you. Once you know your particular areas to work on, you can then develop a game plan to improve your social skills and abilities through reading, or seeking the help of a professional counselor or coach. Good luck!
Dr. Michele Novotni is an internationally recognized expert in the field of ADHD. She is the former president and CEO of the national Attention Deficit Disorder Association (ADDA), an inspiring speaker, best selling author, psychologist, coach and parent of a young adult with AD/HD. She is author of Adult AD/HD and What Does Everybody Else Know That I Don't?.
Michele was the lead facilitator and lobbyist in the creation of national ADD Awareness Day (the third Wednesday in September). She was awarded the national "Make a Difference Award" by the Attention Deficit Disorder Association (ADDA) in 2005 and ADDA originated The Novotni Scholarship Fund to assist college students with AD/HD in her honor.
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