Trouble Balancing Life

Q:

"I have trouble balancing two or more major parts of my life at once, for instance, a career, a boyfriend, and personal business. It seems I only have energy for one at a time and lose focus from the others."

A:

Some of us are just better than others when it comes to the balancing act and need to accept that fact to make life seem a little easier. Many individuals with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADD/ADHD) have a wide range of interests. To pursue all those interests and still get the bills paid on time while keeping up with the "general life maintenance" could be next to impossible.

To make matters worse, those closest to you may not be aware of the extra effort it takes for you to do many of the things they do easily. Some people are better jugglers than others and can have more balls in the air at once. Do not be disappointed in yourself if you need to juggle fewer balls than other people. Many of us need to do that.

Take a good look at your daily routines. If you don't have them, then it is time to develop them. The more structure you can implement in your day, the smoother and more efficient you can be with managing your time. Look at issues that may be draining your time such as perfectionism or procrastination and take steps to correct it.

Aiming for simplicity and trying to keep it simple may add time to your busy schedule. If you are feeling worn out at the end of the day you may need to take a look at wellness concerns such as nutrition, exercise, and sleep. Working smarter and not harder may be the answer and to do that will mean a very thorough assessment of what you do and how you do it.

Solicit support from your friends and those who care about you. Make them part of the solution instead of part of the problem due to lack of understanding. Above all accept yourself for who you are and recognize your strengths. Life needn't be hard, unless we are determined to make it that way.

Sandy Maynard lives in Washington, DC where she operates Catalytic Coaching. She was instrumental in the development of The National Attention Deficit Disorder Association's Coaching Guidelines and a founding board member for the Institute for the Advancement of AD/HD Coaching (IAAC). Sandy lectures internationally and is a regular contributor to ADDitude.

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