Getting Through to Junior

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• Posted by Nivlong - Nov 2 2008 @ 7:24 AM
  Adult with ADD
  I wasn't diagnosed with ADD until well into college, but I can see the patterns looking back into my childhood.

  What worked for my parents was to give me lots of support and structure. So even without a diagnosis, things like tutoring, high expectations, and an active interest in my schooling all helped steer me in the right direction. Even without any of us realizing I had problems.

  So while I imagine it's hard for teens (or adults, for that matter) to accept any kind of diagnosis, it's hard to deny other tangible facts such as bad grades or problems with others. Positive things that focus on coping with life in general may help.

  So although someone may not accept the idea of professional psychiatric help, there may be things like structured activities or tutoring to address or prevent problems. Depending on their age and temperament, children and teens may not object to things like Scouts, martial arts, dance classes, or tutoring. Having positive activities that are associated with measurable goals and recognized achievements worked well for me.

  Reducing or restricting distractions can also be appropriate - "So you don't think you have a psychological problem? Fine, your grades still suck, no TV for you!"

  I think Stephen Covey applies here - "Seek first to understand, then to be understood." It's not easy to be the one with the problem, to be the "bad guy," and a little understanding and communication can go a long way.