Growing up life was frustrating and it still is frustrating. I have ADHD but not a really overall hyper guy. I was diagnosed in elementary school with ADHD. Through out my life I have always been prone to lose things and break things but not on purpose. People also told me that I did everything the hard way and didn't take the easiest route. Because I break and lose things people (including my parent) lost trust in me to handle things that would end up costing me if I broke or lost the item. Also, because I didn't do things the easiest way people have felt that they needed to instruct me (constantly) or they take the project away from me so that it would be done in their estimation the right way.This is my dilemma, I thought growing up that this would be just a phase in life that would discontinue has an adult but this has not happen. My wife who I love and respect, tries to prevent situations from happening by controlling what I buy (makes sure that what buy is cheap) and she constantly take over what task I mess up. She even instructs me in the mourning what I should do with my day. I told her last night that she was being controlling and it was causing problems in our relationship. I told her I respect her insight but I don't know when to be mad at her for controlling my life and when to respect her for helping me out. How do I teach her to let me do some thing on my own even though there is a chance that I could mess up? How do I get her to trust in my own abilities?

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