Your 9 yr old sounds like my 8 yr old. No impulse control and I have also admitted that I love him but find it hard to like him. He just isn't fun to be around with his mood swings, nonstop joking around and inability to take any responsibility for his actions. I feel your pain.

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Hi, I have 3 boys ages 16,12, and 10 who alll have ADHD and are on meds. My oldest is pretty much a normal teen, he does get himself up and out the door in the morning without any help from me, however he does have typical teenage issues such as peer pressure, has been caught using pot on more then one occasion. My middle son is the perfect child if there is such a thing, does excatly what he is supposed to do, gets up by himself is at the table eating breakfast when I get up and is dressed and ready for school, gets along great with everyone excpet his younger brother, he likes to pick fights with him for no reason. BUT,my youngest son is going to be the death of me! He will be 11 in June, the past 6 months I have had constant phone calls from his teachers, he has had after school dention, he has been suspended from school and has had ISS! No matter what the consquences are for his actions he is still going to do whatever he wants to do at the moment! Its always someone elses fault that he gets in trouble at school, never his own fault. He does make good grades, but he hates school, will not do his homework on his own, takes me 30 minutes to wake him up in the mornings, and then another 45 minutes for him to get dressed and out of the door, somedays the bus is pulling up as he is walking out the door, thats how close it is! I too, am at my wits end with him! At night, I have to tell him for 30 minutes to go get a bath, and ready for bed. We went to the doctor this week and he increased his doseage for meds, put him on clondine at night to help him rest and hopfully have better mornings and days at school if he is rested. Day 2 of the new meds and I have seen no change at all. I love him to death, but as you all said, I dont like to be around him, he is very argumentive with me and everyone else about any and everything! He is never happy! I am all but this close to having him live in a boys home for school and come home on the weekends before his behavior is worse! I am really ready to give up!

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AAAAHHHHHHH! I had to join this website today because I felt like I was going to just buy a ticket far far away and just LEAVE!!! I have a 5 year old who was diagnosed with ADHD a month ago. I have known he had it from the age of like 2! He does exactly the same thing as your son. He whines all the time, gets frustrated about something that he cant do IMMEDIATELY, Doesn't want to do things I tell him to do, always argues with me or tries to negotiate what he can do or eat or what time he goes to bed. He gets in trouble and then 2 seconds later gets upset because he cant do the things he wants to do that were taken away BECAUSE he got in trouble, and it goes on and on. Today I had such a bad day with him that I lost it. Just non stop of getting into trouble, and I told him he couldn't play with his next door neighbors, then kept complaining about not being able to play with them and being hysterical about it. I was trying to explain well, yeah, no duh it sucks. When you're in trouble, you get privileges taken away. He freaked out, so I sent him to his room, and what does he do? Opens his window and starts talking to his neighbor friends. He doesn't give a s#@t about being in trouble or what he is told to do, or cannot do. When he gets consequences for breaking rules or doing things hes not supposed to do, he literally acts like hes having a seizure. Flopping around on the ground and freaking out crying and wailing. I just want to loose my mind. He doesn't seem to get it!!! I have tried EVERY rout in discipline from spanking, time outs, gently talking, taking toys away, taking tv away, play time away, and nothing seems to make him not want to do bad things. We started him on Metedate yesterday, and it seems like its not doing a damn thing. I'm so scared to keep testing drugs on him, but I feel like if he cant focus, how is he going to learn to stop his impulses or pay any attention to what I'm trying to teach him. Uuugh, I so know what you're going thru. I feel guilty cuz I don't like my kid sometimes and it breaks my heart and makes me feel awful. Its sooooo hard dealing with it all day every day. Anyway, if its any consolation, I understand what you're going thru and am feeling the same way.

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