I am sorry to hear what you are dealing with, I am 36, I have ADD. I have felt the EXACT aggression and depression, etc you have felt. I saw that you said you are working with 2 Therapist's? I did also, it helped. I also had used Straterra, a non-controlled ADD drug so to speak. It didn't help with the aggression and Depression, and insecurities. I talked to my Dr. and he said what about Adderral? I really didn't want to take a Controlled Substance, but he put me on Adderral XR 30 mg. It has improved my LIFE! My wife and I get along better, I don't feel the intense emotions and aggressions that I once did. It brought me down to a normal level. The good thing about it, I can skip days of taking it and feel no side-effects. After 3 days without it, I start feeling tense and know I need it. I hope this helps.

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I have just been diagnosed and have the same problems as you. I have been struggling with jobs, and relationships until most recently. I wish i had known i had adhd when i was a kid. Adderall IR is helping me to focus, not overfocus on what he is doing (thats all I used to think about was him cheating, which i new was pretty ridiculous cause if its gonna happen, its gonna happen.) Now I just focus on being in the present, instead of racing thoughts and racing around like a lunatic. Adderall has completely changed my life.....

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okay dumb statement but i'll assume you have been dx w/ adhd....anyway from how you discribed your history there is a pattern of becoming paranoid, jealous,overbearing, agressive when you are involved in a serious relationship..so a good question to ask yourself is 1) Am I like this regardless of being in a relationship? Maybe you are and don't realize it until of you need to start balancing more than just yourself....changing my cat litter boxes can be a challenge sometimes :o) i chose to not have children for that very reason i simply would not be able to handle more than myself....it would be way too overwhelming for me....i think you are putting a lot of pressure..too much pressure on yourself to be superman..the life you descibed would be challenging for anyone and when adhd is mixed in faghetaboutit! maybe you're getting angry because "you just can't seem to do anything right" one thing that has helped me is continuing to find out more and more about adhd and people's personal experiences...checklists are one thing, but how do these "things" actually play out in our lives..slow down and educate yourself (and therapists...btw i've seen plenty that did nothing but drag me around MAKE SURE YOU ARE SETTING AND ACHIEVING GOALS WITH YOUR THERAPIST AND THAT YOUR THERAPIST SPECIALIZES IN ADHD) you would probably be better of with one therapist that knows what the hell there doing...BELIEVE me those fancy letters after their name merely means they went through the schooling aspect NOT that they are "experts" if you're working on relaxation techniques and providing updates every week that ain't therapy) sorry about that bandwagon but you will be wasting your time and continue to feel like there is no hope if you aren't improving Like I said learn more about what role adhd plays in your life your frustrations (symptoms) from adhd are shown in anger whereas my frustrations show up as depression WARNING this isn't easy BUT there are adhd coaches that undertsand where "we're" coming from and tons of written material even support groups its great that you're reaching out here adhd is something you accept about yourself and then say "okay what is my next step to work with it so i can manage my life better?" they maybe baby steps but that is okay as long as you're moving not backward or hovering....your fiancee needs to be a part of this too...she needs to understand adhd it means SO many things and affects so many aspects of our daily lives....maybe she can recognize a cue that you're about to explode before you LISTEN TO HER....all she has to do is say something like "i think you need a break" and then you can walk away to diffuse......THERE IS SO MUCH HOPE FOR YOU AND YOUR FUTURE THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IS TO CONTINUE TO MOVE FORWARD AND LEARN ALL YOU CAN ABOUT ADHD WITH YOUR FIANCEE.....

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