Hello,

My son has displayed similar behaviors around homework and situations that make him uncomfortable. What I've found is that his reaction is in response to the stress he feels. It's quite possible that your son's reaction over homework is a result of his anxiety and emotions tied to that homework. Perhaps he's feeling frustrated, inadequate, and lost.

We work with a psychologist on cognitive behavioral therapy for my son. Through this process we have learned that, as parents, we need to validate his emotions and feelings. Your son then realizes that you're on his side and can open-up to discuss his emotions so that you can work on solutions together.

Being on the receiving end of swearing can be hurtful and feels very disrespectful. After all, you love your child and you do your best to look out for him. I would think to myself "Why do I get treated this way when I'm my son's biggest advocate and supporter". I think it's important to point out that the behavior is inappropriate and that you deserve better. Explain that the behavior won't be tolerated but then work with him to better express his feelings in a respectful manner. We've had success with this approach.

I hope this helps! :)

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Thanks, I agree it is difficult. I will try your suggestions! Thanks!

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