My son is 5 and just had his first day of kindergarten in a private school. I had him on a waiting list for months and he finally got in. I have known that he is ADHD since he was 2 or so and he was diagnosed a few months ago. He has pee accidents often when he is hyperfocused and has poop and pee accidents everytime we have extreme life transitions. For example when we move or change Daycares. He was in a montessori school and functioned quite well, he is very smart and can learn things easily. The problem is that when things change he gets so involved in exploring the new environment that he doesn't pay any attention to anything else. He gets constipated often and I give him Miralax daily. He had a poop accident today and his new school/daycare told me that they cannot have him there if he has those types of accidents. The difficult thing is that when We smell him, he is asked if he is poopy and he does not have an answer, when I check him and tell him he is poopy he has a look of surprize on his face. If I ask him why he pooped his pants he tells me that he forgot or didn't know it was coming out. Everyday I give him a pep talk about trying to poop everytime he pees, I've always had him sit to potty. I am at my whits end on this. I have to constantly remind myself that this is medical but I don't want him to have an excuse. How do get him to gain control of his bowels when I am not there constantly to remind him to go try and go potty. He usually does not have these accidents on the weekends with me because I remind him to go between transitions, ie: when we go somewhere, outside to play and after we eat. His school says that they do not remind 5y/olds to go to the bathroom because they are of age. Do I have any rights or do I just have to deal with the fact that they have given me a week to find somewhere else for him to go. How do I get him to stop this or do I just have to wait it out? I don't want to make too big of a deal and hurt his feelings but I've had enough. The schools around here are year round which means that they go to school for 9 weeks then have 3 weeks off which I am sure is not good for him since he needs stability and routine to function in a tolerable way. I do my best to understand since I am ADHD also but seriously I am losing my patience. HELP!!!!

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