I just saw the article Bulling at School: is your ADHD kid a Victim? It is a good article - here is a link

http://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/1595.html

But I have a unique viewpoint of ADHD and bulling.

I have an adult sister with ADHD. Watching how she treated people growing up - I realize the statement "Children with ADHD may believe they bring bullying on themselves with their inappropriate behavior..." can be true. Sometimes ADHD children DO bring actions perceived as bullying on themselves.

One example that comes to mind was during her teen years. She was in a incessant talking hyperactive phase. I do mean incessant talking. As in non-stop. No one could carry on a conversation, study, listen to music... when she was around. [Picture someone talking so much that you can't think - and you will have an idea of what it was like to be around her.]

This went on for days. She was asked repeatedly to stop talking. Told to stop talking. Finally one of the guys walked to within two feet of her - and told her to "SHUT UP". She was hurt & felt picked on. He was "mean" to her "out of the blue". She felt she hadn't done anything.

The fact that she had been asked/told repeatedly not to talk so much... didn't make it through the ADHD static in her brain.

Her childhood (and possibly her adult life too) is full of experiences like this. She would infringe on other people's rights/boundaries, did not "process" requests to stop (or remember it later), and when her victim was pushed to the breaking point and retaliated/did what was needed to get her to stop - she felt bullied.

Asking the teacher won't always get you the truth about an ADHD child's behavior. Teachers don't always see how the ADHD child acts towards peers. The teachers didn't see a lot of what my sister did on the playground and during unstructured time. Not much help there.

Heaven knows, for years I'd try to talk to our mother about my sister's behavior - and got "blown off". I guess our mom thought it wasn't as bad as I was saying.

My suggestion would be to keep an open mind and talk to some of the other kids or their parents. And really listen.

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