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First post - looking for your experience and tips
Hi -
On Saturday I was at my therapists office waiting to go in when I saw an ADDitude magazine and I looked at it. I was there to get help for my 3 year relationship with my BF. His habits have me on the edge - I'm ready to give up. Then I read this relationship article and I realize our relationship is the same way! He's got ADD or ADHD - I'm sure of it!!! He was over for the weekend and we talked about it. He read the article and he said he'd talk to his therapist about it. I am thrilled that there may be an answer to all the issues we've got. He lives in chaos! His living space is a total WRECK. I thought he was a hoarder or something, but he's not. He just doens't know how to clean his mess of papers. I felt ignored by him while he's HYPERFOCUSED on his dog who recently passed. I could write down pages of complaints about the way he does things - makes decisions seemingly without thinking things through, etc., etc. He even told me that when he was a little kid he had to move his seat to the front of the class so he wouldn't be distracted. He's willing to work on himself and already goes to therapy because he's also got depression and anxiety....but he's never been evaluated for ADHD. I'm psyched that there may be better help out there for him and us! We need couples therapy but now I know what needs to be focused on. Any advice, book referrals, stories - lessons learned etc, would be greatly appreciated. I'm new and open to learning about how things can be helped. I was hopeless and now have hope because I happened to find this magazine and this website. Thanks in advance for your help.
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6 Feb 2011 @ 9:54 PM
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