As someone who has ADHD I would suggest working with a therapist and psychatrist to see if meds would be appropriate. Doing well in school is great and I would encourage you and your husband to continue to do what your doing to keep it up. But the alienation from the other kids is what bothers me. Its very hard to deal with impulse control, temper, and just being annoying, sometimes we are overwhelmed with so much energy we have no where else to put it excpet onto others. Growing up I had friends and girlfriends get annoyed or not even want to be around me because they couldn't "Handle" me. Proper social skills are key to having a Happy and Successful ADHD child, who will grow up into a well rounded adult. Best of luck to you, God Bless

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pam106 said: My ds is almost 10. From day one he has been "intense," and it took me a while to figure out his baby cues. He did sleep well once I figured things out. He was a sensitive child as a toddler and would often melt down if we didn't get to nap at the exact time. He never slept in the car! He needed his crib. He had some fears/phobias as a toddler and preschooler-- loud noises, fear of fires... In preschool he was fine-- no behaviour issues. The only red flag was that kids didn't gravitate towards him. If we had a play date, i had to orchestrate the entire event to make it an enjoyable experience. My ds kind of overwhelmed his friends I think with his constant chatter. Elementay school has been interesting. He's a very good student and in all accelerated classes, straight A's. He did have some impulse control issues early on but he now-- in fourth grade-- seems to handle himself okay partly because we have him in a very structured school. He is part of the sports gang on the playground-- but he is not invited to sleepovers or birthday parties and I don't believe he has a close friend. No one calls.. Again-- I think he overwhelms his peers. ??? He's also ultra competitve (sorry for all these spelling errors-- I'm typing fast).

Questions: At home, he has been defiant some. If I send him to his room , he'll come out after a few minutes. I have caught him lying-- seveal times. For instance, if I ask him to wash his hands before dinner-- he will run the water-- but not actually wash his hands. Same goes for brushing his teeth, he'll run the water-- but not actually brush. I've caught him cheating at board and card games several times. He doesn't like others receiving praise. If his brother scores a basket-- his comment will be "So- I scored two..." He often runs in my house from room to room.

I watch his diet and sleep like a hawk. I give him fish oil. We have him in after school physical activity 5 days a week. All of these things do seem to help. But i am exhausted trying to keep him 'balanced' all the time. Are these things all adding up to ADHD or high energy/intense boy? If you believe he does have ADHD, woud you medicate even though he is successful at school? Or would you just ignoe all the gray hairs this child brings.

I should mention that he has been seen by a Dr.. The diagnosis a few years back was 'borderline ADHD-hyperactice type." But he was never prescribed meds.

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If you are close to the parents of one of your son's classmates - see if you can meet for coffee to discuss your son's "quirks".

Some ADHD children don't do well with a lack of structure. Even though your son's classes are structured; lunch, bathroom breaks, and recess (maybe gym too) may not have enough structure for him.

Don't rely solely on the teacher for input on how your son behaves - the teacher will not see how he behaves when there isn't someone to redirect/correct his inappropriate actions.

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