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response to Clutterchaos mom
I'm sorry this is so late from your original posting. I just found it so here goes...I SO totally hear your pain! It's very difficult to cope w/ this stress day in and day out. I, too, have not been able to find 'parent' support in our area. I've explored, believe me, but the only support group (CHADD) meets every other month and its about 30 miles away. We parents need more than bi-monthly support--we need daily support. My dh works long hours and doesn't cope w/ our daughter's ADHD/ADD too well (dtr is 14yrs old, diagnosed at age 8). So, dealing w/ the issues tends to fall in my lap. So basically what I'm saying is that having a husband around doesn't necessarily guarantee 'support'. We've also have had difficulty finding the right medication/dosage for our daughter, but more importantly, finding a healthcare provider who is willing to consistently work w/ us to get positive results. Our daughter's current psych doc, who does all the prescribing, does just that, he just prescribes. And this has been another challenge....finding a doc who is willing to work w/ adolescents with ADHD/ADD (all those adolescent hormones intensify the ADHD/ADD greatly) has been impossible despite my extensive searches. The ones I do find, I contact but then I am told there are waiting list months long.....it often seems like no one else is dealing with the issues that we are dealing with--we live in a suburban city and there isn't ONE support group for parents of ADHD/ADD children. I thought of starting up my own support group, but frankly, I am so drained at the end of the day, I need to focus on conserving my energy for dealing w/ my daughter's moodiness, inattention, opposition and crippling disorganization. I find myself doing alot of praying! But as long as we can post questions and concerns on these blogs, we will be able to support each other in this way. Perhaps it is the only real source of support available at this time but at the very least , we won't feel so isolated, so alone in these trials. I would suggest getting a sitter once or twice a week for your son--even if you get out for 2 hrs and simply catch up on errands, or get the car washed, anything with 'normalacy' attached to it....it allows us a little time to simply catch our breathe, if nothing else! also, for your son, consider the possibility that there may be a co-morbid condition present with the ADHD....80% of the time there is. I know he is still little, but is there a possibility that he may have an anxiety disorder associated with not having his dad around? Perhaps yet another change in medication or an additional administration of a smaller dose of a short acting med to help ease 'off' the long acting. Our daughter became VERY moody, tearful, agitated as the 'long acting' med wore off. It's really a balancing act but it can be done. Despite our exhaustion, we still are our childrens' warriors! Feel free to contact me through this blog site at any time, and we can do an exchange of some serious sista support!!! take care:)
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28 Jan 2011 @ 9:52 AM
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