Hi there. I was recently diagnosed as well (39 y.o. Male)...I'm in a diff situation b/c my wife suffers from

depression/anxiety, therefore she's sympathetic to idea of a "mental disorder" in general. Curious- Is your husband a Scientology guy? You are not going to get any compassion if so!

ADD is weird - it's a condition that will completely destroy your life (my finances are in ruins) yet it feels like when you explain it to somebody it still feels kind of "made-up" - right? I would reco picking up a good ADD book and trying to get him to read it. It's a lot easier to allow someone elses words to describe the pain of what, essentially, it feels like to be a complete failure. This isn't going to be easy - im on medication now, and while I'm much more alert & marginally more organized - what is going to sting the most is realization of your life to this point...what you have or have not accomplished due to this condition. That is the hump you need to get over first. Good luck darlin.

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Sorry to hear of your unconvinced hubby.

The deal is this: ADHD is serious. It's a brain disorder. It has devastating effects and consequences. The cruelty of adhd is that it its symptoms (the brain's inability to organize, plan, to remember several things at the same time), mimic the symptoms of "laziness" etc.

We can no more will power our way through adhd than a person with schizophrenia can willpower their way through all the voices they hear.

It would be nice if your hubby were supportive. But if he's not, you need to be supportive of yourself. Get treatment. The goal is not to convince him. The goal is to improve your life and the life of your family. It is ironic of course that your hubby would benefit as you get treated.

I got diagnosed after I got divorced. I pretty much will not date or marry anyone who doesn't take my adhd story seriously. But if I were so married, I would go on my own and get treatment. You can also look for support groups around you. Do it for you. You don't need to tell him anything about it.

Sorry to poo poo your hubby's views, but his views on psychiatrists are simply not informed and not helpful and in fact can be quite destructive. I have friends who are alive right now because of the help of psychiatrists. My life has improved a lot with my psychiatrist. Guess what? With my medications, I have more willpower and make better decisions. I exercise more, sleep better, concentrate better, meditate more.

Take care of yourself. Time to move past hubby's approval on this one.

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