I don't even know how to start. I have a 9 yr old son that is Borderline Cognitive Impaired, had ADHD and ODD. He is currently on Concerta 36mg once daily, Ritalin 10 mg once daily and Zoloft 25 mg once daily. He takes all these meds in the morning with Milk. My son has been evaluated for everything from the sun to the moon. He was mainstreamed in Kindergarten then placed in Resource Room and taken out of the class room then placed in a Special Ed Cognitive Impaired Room. 1st grade he was in another CI room. 2nd grade another CI room with a OHI diagnosis. He is now in an Emotionally Impaired classroom. He had some Psycological testing during the summer and they concluded that his behavior problems are due to his CI and that he should be in a CI room not an EI room. But the teacher thinks EI placement is correct. THE PROBLEM: He seems to have emotional outbursts in the classroom. He yells, screams, throwns himself on the floor, cries with tears and taunts kids and disrespect the teacher. There are 2 phrases that have been pinned to him since he started Kindergarten....1) Refuses 2) Not following directions. When he gets home he does everything I tell him to do. At home I am very firm with him. I do raise my voice a lot and I feel it is mostly because he is such a bright boy best reader in class and he knows what is expected of him. It seems most days I only conversate to him about his behavior and how needs to be respectful and kind and I'm sure he has it memorized by now. But when he is in class he is a totally different boy. He shuts down, gets angry, emotional, the teacher thinks that it's mainly because he doesnt get his way or because he will get in this mood when he feels he doesnt want to do his work because he feels its too hard. He gives up easily. Today I got a call (again) from his teacher saying he told him to put his legos back and then shut down after that. When I was on the phone he was crying very emotional the teacher had to put his arms around him to hold him down because he was kicking and the teacher felt he was becoming a danger to himself and the students. He seemed angry and emotional. He often times doesnt make sense to me. He refuses a lot. Does not mind the teacher. At home I have used spanking. I was raised on spanking and I turned out to be a very respectful person. Doesn't work for anyone but it did for me. It works with my son but he follows directions I believe mostly because of fear of corporal punishment. I stopped using this method because I think he knows that is the most punishment he could receive. So I started taking away toys and priviledges. He has been sitting in my bed with a bag ful of books for one week straight now and he doesnt seem to understand that if he chooses a bad behavior he will not get good results. I talk to him ALL the time about his behavior. I have also used the 1-2 directions. I give him a direction once and remind him a second time but there will be no 3rd time cuz here comes the belt. It works for me at home. I just don't understand what his problem is at school I mean these are the experts and they don't even know what to do anymore and they call me. I never put him down, or call him names, in fact i try to use positive reinforcement with him but I feel he senses my frustration. I often feel like a bad mother even though I know I'm not. I'm sitting here now crying because I feel I am at my wits end...like at the end of my rope. I feel soooo emotionally drained. I cry a lot about this. I worry my son will become a nuissance to society. Please...please...any one ...help me.

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