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15 Nov 2010 @ 11:18 PM
izzynlilysmom Join Date: Sun 12th Sep 2010
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I think my four year old has ADHD, everyone else thinks I'm crazy.....

I was recently diagnosed with ADD about 6 months ago. Most people think a diagnoses is a bad thing, I personally take it as a blessing. It made my life make so much more sense than it did. I felt as if I was different my whole life and I was. I chose not to let my diagnoses hinder me. My husband has also been diagnosed with Acute Anxiety and Depression. I think he started treatment before it got to its absolute worst. I will admit he was sometimes almost unbearable, but I learned to adjust to him and his everyday mantrums. lol. I know we have both made a very positive and significant change in our lives. We both have become so adjusted to the way things were, that we actually see each other in a different but good way. Now....... Meet Izabelle...... Izzy is our bright and beautiful 4 year old. She is very smart. (almost reading, she can write, spell some words, etc) She loves the Beatles and knows all their songs, and so much you would never expect a four year old to know. She has been enrolled in a private school preschool since she was 2. Just within the last couple of months she has been acting out beyond belief. She is a angel in school. Only once has her teacher said anything about her having a "emotional day" and that was today. Every night its a battle to get her to go to sleep, and sometimes it progresses to her kicking her bedroom door and screaming. She is stomping her feet and whinning ALL THE TIME. She does not have little tantrums for a few minutes and move on, she dwells for hours. She never would behave this way in front of some people; but recently she is doing it in front of almost everyone, except at school. I have talked to her teacher and director and they look at me like I am crazy when I tell them how she behaves when not on school property.. lol I think she has ADHD with a touch of ODD. I think I am the only one who feels this way but Grandma's do not have to go through bedtime, bathtime and everything else I experience with her on a regular basis. My husband is coming around to the idea that maybe she is but I dont know what to do. I took her to see my therapist who said she was showing signs of onset depression, onset ADD and ODD. He gave her a prescription for a antidepressant and behavior therapy but it do not agree with him. Her regular doctor has scheduled a appt with someone else and I am glad but am I crazy? Do I have a rotten child?

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16 Nov 2010 @ 12:42 AM Reply # 1
scrapperluv Join Date: Tue 19th Oct 2010
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Was it a child psychiatrist or a regular psych? I'd take her for a second opinion with someone who specializes in children. That sounds like an awful lot of disorders for a 4 year old. Anything is possible, but it just doesn't sound right. You might want to give her some time before starting meds. It could be a phase she's going through. Has it been 6 months? My son's doctor made sure he consistently had the symptoms of ADD for 6 months before he'd prescribe. You know how kids go through different phases and test boundaries. Kids without other disorders pass through these stages. My son had definite signs of ADD early on. He was around 2 when we started seeing symptoms. We finally tried meds when he turned 7 and they worked wonder. I just want to encourage to be sure before medicating a child that young. Also, I'm sure you've already looked into this, but you gotta be careful with children and antidepressants.

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16 Nov 2010 @ 11:54 AM Reply # 2
izzynlilysmom Join Date: Sun 12th Sep 2010
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Update...

We went to see a child therapist today and not really what I expected. He thinks she is very bright and in return she has managed to become manulipative. He scheduled a appointment with a behavior therapist and a children's psychologist. He did not think she needed the antidepressents and I totally agree. She started having a little "meltdown" in his office but not a extreme one like we get at home. My problem is she does get punished for bad behavior. She knows what the rules and consequences are for her behavior but she simply does not care. I feel a little refreshed knowing I am not a horrible mom with a rotten child as some have put it and there is hope at the end of my extremely long tunnel during 5'oclock traffic.

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9 Mar 2011 @ 9:26 AM Reply # 3
wwwangels Join Date: Wed 9th Mar 2011
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I'm a behavior specialist and we see alot of kids with ADHD and my son has it as well. From my experience, tt's difficult to diagnose a child so young with ADHD because those kinds of behaviors are typical in little ones. The clue on whether or not is manipulative is if the behaviors manifest themselves in all areas of her life. ADHD does not turn itself off in school or at grandma's house. Since your daughter is smart, she may have learned to be a master manipulator. You should try reading Setting Limits with Your Strong Willed Child. It will help you step away when your child tries to pull you into "the dance". The strategies are good for any child, especially children with ADHD (it's the structure.)

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