My daughter's problems w/temper, etc. never got this severe (thankfully), I did read "The Explosive Child" and "Lost in School" by Dr. Ross Greene. If you haven't already done so, they may be helpful to you. Also, I really have to question if this behaviorist is the right person for your situation, he doesn't seem to be taking this as seriously as you are. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with him, but maybe he doesn't know all the details of the situation? Maybe you need more or different help with this. It sounds a little more complicated than even AD/HD & LD's. Maybe ODD or bipolar? The most important thing is that your daughter and your family get to have a home life that you actually like.

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Lotusflower said: Hello,

My daughter 7 was diagnosed with severe ADHD, and a LD last year. She is on meds and they help some, we have also seen a behaviourlist and she will be going to see a social worker soon. I have had to put alarms on the doors, the biggest problem I am having is her violent outburst. I know most people I have tried to talk to are like your to hard on her or your not hard enough etc. But she has left me bruised, she hits, punches, kicks, screams, throws things and has threated to kill me or herself. I am getting her all the help I can as well as myself. She feels really bad once she has calmed down. But I need help in trying to figure a way to help get through to her that it is not okay to treat me this way. I am at a loss, I need help, the behaviourst said I am doing everything I should be doing, so why is the voilence getting worse. She is doing pretty well in school, and beyond the odd thing does not act this way there. Please I need ideas.

Try to talk to your daughter, when she is calm. Explain to her that it is okay to be angry, but not okay to hurt someone else or herself. Try to figure out her "triggers". This may assist you in helping her avoid the violent outbursts. Teach her some acceptable methods to show her anger. Do not accept her violence, but give her alternatives first.

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Hi there - we have been dealing with my daughters adhd since age 4 - she is 6 now... and I have noticed lately that she is more violent - more just short outbursts than what you are describing...I just read some interesting information about misdiagnoses made between adhd and early onset bi polar - with the bi polar person being extremely violent - maybe you should talk with your doc about a different diagnoses since your kiddo is so violent. I don't know. Everyday with an add child is an adventure. Best of luck to you, your child and family.

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This is typically an impulse control issue. There are several articles here on ADDitudeMag.com that address this issue and may contain some helpful advice.

Helping ADHD Kids who Hit, by Carol Brady, PhD: http://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/763.html Impulse Control: Helping ADHD Students Manage Their Behaviors: http://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/6006.html Reacting to ADHD Rage, from the Parenting Blog: http://www.additudemag.com/adhdblogs/4/5794.html Anger Management for ADHD Children, by Dr. Edward Hallowell: http://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/7951.html

Hang in there!

Penny W., ADDitudeMag.com Community Moderator

mom to Luke, ADHD, age 8

creator of the Website {a mom's view of ADHD} at http://adhdmomma.blogspot.com

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