If your husband is willing to pay someone else to do the laundry, go for it. I once heard it said that people with ADHD are typically laundry disabled. My husband and I have the same issues. The reason why laundry is so important to your husband could be because his personality is opposite of yours. Typically opposites attract. My husband is very organized and linear thinking- opposite of me. He will come home from work and head for the hamper and throw a load in and complete it through dinner. It is not that I don't do laundry. It is just that feels the need to get to it sooner than I. So I let him.

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So, let me get this straight. Your "problem" here is that your husband wants to PAY someone to do a tiresome chore for you??? Seriously, does he have ANY unmarried brothers? Honey, I don't even care what age! Please give your husband a great big hug. Right Now :) (Personally, I would be making sure I'm also leaving a few well-chosen spots around the house un-dusted, too. He might just "insult" you further by springing for Merry Maids once or twice a month!) Live it up. I am SO jealous of you right now. Trust me, many many women reading this will also be wishing they were you....

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so here's the deal...I tell him ok I'll find someone to do it. I don't like doing laundry. No pride issues but....I forget to look, it's overwhelming and I forget...plus the $$ factor. It's my money too and I don't consider laundry a big enough priority. If we spend money on this then there's less for something else. No way...I have a housekeeper every two weeks (a suggestion he made and I agreed to) but she won't do laundry.

I already got him doing the bills (after years of late fees) so asking him to do the laundry would be kinda rude.

Right now I have piles...where would I begin looking for a place to do my laundry. His laundry. I'm not paying to have my or my kids laundry done - only his. (yes there's resentment in there).

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Personally, I'm a bit puzzled by the laundry issues. I don't find doing laundry onerous at all since it really just a couple of easy steps: -sort it into the correct colored piles or load type (jeans, cotton towels, permapress, etc) -throw a load into the washer -after you hear the washer's 'finished' bell go off, go throw the load into the dryer -when you hear the dryer's 'finished' bell go off, go pull the clothes out and hang them up/fold them

If for some reason you're out of the house when the dryer finishes, just put it onto the wrinkle release feature. I'm pretty sure that most dryers must have it these days since I remember that the very first dryer I bought when I got married had a wrinkle release cycle. That was over 34 years ago!

Socks go missing? Buy a bunch of those mesh laundry bags that are available at the dollar store. I throw socks into some of them (never have 1 sock go missing again- you'll always have complete pairs every time!). Panty hose, bras and other delicates also go into a bag. I don't mix the different things in a bag, only 'like' items go in each bag.

If your dryer doesn't have a wrinkle release cycle go out and get a new one. It will be cheaper than hiring someone to do the laundry and will probably be a more energy efficient dryer anyway. (yeah, I know...it's more energy efficient to hang clothes outside on a line) You don't even have to run it for the full cycle. A few more spins in the dryer and there as good as new.

Believe me, I hate hanging around waiting for a washer or dryer to finish as much as the next ADDer on this site. What's the thing I hate even more than waiting at the dryer (and perhaps a bit OCDish on this one)? It's wrinkles! Wrinkles on my clothes.

If all that sounds too hard, just remember this- it's a lot easier to go to your laundry room and fold/hang up the clothes than it is to iron t-shirts and shirts. That takes time. A lot of it with minimal payback!

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I tend to just leave my laundry in the dryer until I need it next, unless it's a nice shirt (then I hang it up and let the wrinkles fall out). Seriously, it's just laundry. If he wants it done perfectly, make him do his own damn laundry. Don't waste money hiring someone just do to laundry

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I find that my husband gets really irritated that I can't keep up with ironing his work clothes. (he's offered to do it, but I feel it's my responsibility) I try each week to set an evening aside (with no tv) and something always gets in the way. When I don't do it, he sees it as me not caring enough about his needs and prioritizing something for him instead of putting the kids and others in front of him. So, it's not really the act of not ironing he's upset about. It's feeling neglected... not sure if that's what your hubby may be feeling, but just something to think about. On a side note- my husband has ALWAYS done our family's laundry. I knew before we got married that that was NOT a strength of mine and I am such a procrastinator that we'd never have clothes! So I just help when it's overwhelming, he's too busy, or with the baby clothes. He washes and folds and I put everything away.

Good luck, I know how hard it is to keep up and not even know where to start sometimes!

Dawn

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Hi there,

A few years ago I purchased a tool online that has helped me (and my husband) tremendously. He plays golf and has quite a few golf shirts, some of which shrink or wrinkle if dried. I found the Shape and Dry garment drying system and, on a whim, bought one to give to my husband as a Christmas gift (I know, I know....but it WAS a gift that has been used every week for years, so guess it was a good one after all!).

The Long Sheeve Hanger Kit comes with the mounting bracket and 6 sets of 34" bars -- perfect for a man-sized short- or long-sleeved shirt.

T-shirts and golf shirts dry wrinkle free and also have collar positioners (I don't usually need them). Once the shirts are dry, I hang them on large felt-covered hangers (like the ones sold at Target or the Container Store) to prevent hanger marks on the shoulders.

Limitations: 1. Only six shirts can hang to dry at a time 2. The 34" bar doesn't fit my clothing as well (I'm 5'2" and petite) 3. Had to find a place to mount the bracket (it can be hung over a door, but we use ours so often that we wanted ours to have a permanent home)

Advantages: 1. No wrinkles 2. My husband uses the unit to dry his shirts 3. Saves money - no electricity or gas used for drying those items 4. Shirts hung up in the evening are dry by the next morning.

The unit I purchased (LM34) now costs $54.95, and I'm getting ready to order a second unit (the short sleeve hanger set, which has 6 sets of 22" bars) for $49.95.

Contact info: www.shapendry.com 1-888-231-6350

Hope this helps!

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abst14 said: so here's the deal...I tell him ok I'll find someone to do it. I don't like doing laundry. No pride issues but....I forget to look, it's overwhelming and I forget...plus the $$ factor. It's my money too and I don't consider laundry a big enough priority. If we spend money on this then there's less for something else. No way...I have a housekeeper every two weeks (a suggestion he made and I agreed to) but she won't do laundry.

I already got him doing the bills (after years of late fees) so asking him to do the laundry would be kinda rude.

Right now I have piles...where would I begin looking for a place to do my laundry. His laundry. I'm not paying to have my or my kids laundry done - only his. (yes there's resentment in there).

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I have been married for 12 years. My husband was constantly on me--I'm going to run out of socks, clean shirts for work, etc. He never did, but my doing all the laundry on one day a week also drove him nuts. And I usually left stuff in the washer or dryer......and I never put stuff away. I would run to the basement and dig up a suitable outfit every morning from a laundry basket of miscellaneous stuff. We also had a running backlog of about 10 loads of laundry (household of 2).

We hired someone to help us at home this summer, and it was the best thing I've ever done. She does all the work of things that we disagree on. She does laundry, folds, puts away. She also cleans up our kitchen--I love to cook but I'm very messy and I always "trashed" the kitchen according to my husband.

At first I felt guilty, like I was a failure, and we were wasting money. But after a few months I have come to realize that my days start out much calmer when I am not in a mad rush to find a suitable work outfit and I know for sure that all my clothes are in front of me to choose from. Also--I no longer spend as much money on clothes. At least 3 times per month I would realize I had nothing to wear to work and would stop at a store to buy a top/pants/etc. This has completely stopped.

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My husband is pretty good about pinning his socks together with large safety pins when he takes them off. That way he always has complete pairs. I wonder why your shirts are wrinkled? I never iron and just use the dryer to knock the wrinkles out. Sometimes I have to dry heavy things like jeans and the hang up stuff like shirts separately to insure no wrinkles. IF ther dryer is too full this won't work. If the clothes have been sitting in the dryer a while, I just turn it back on a few minutes and presto no wrinkles.

Hope this helps. I find laundry much less stressful than dealing with paperwork, clutter, unfiished projects, etc. that are all over my house. If all else fails, let your husband hire someone. It would be worth losing some money to keep down conflict!

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