Last year, when my daughter was having a horrific time at school (because of the same issue) I actually emailed ALL her teachers' with this article (and a short forward by me, saying "I hope you don't think this too forward of me" etc. Although the vice principle warned me to NEVER to that again (a warning I likely won't really adhere to anyway) I found It made a difference in how my daughter was treated on a day-to-day basis in school. You may want to read it just more the informational value to you, or you may want to print it out and bring it along the next time you need to go to the school (which, if they're not on board, could be quite often). Here it is, straight off Scholastic's website, by 2 well-respected doctors (who have LOTS of books out there that you probably want to read)

http://www2.scholastic.com/browse/article.jsp?id=11532

Here's another one that makes the same point:

http://www.aboutourkids.org/articles/girls_adhd_overlooked_underdiagnosed_underserved

While I really do believe that too many kids are taking stimulant drugs, and it's too easy of an answer for too many parents and schools, I also know for a fact, that when the diagnosis is legitimate, it's still an uphill battle to convince anyone of that fact. I wish schools would make up their mind, instead of either trying to drug every student that looks restless, or pressure the parent to do so, only to come back a few years later and pretend the AD/HD thing is all nonsense anyway. It's very situational, in the first place. Meaning, it shouldn't take a diagnosis to get the school to take most of this stuff seriously, but unfortunately, it does. Of course, since the stereotype is the hyper little boy whose always in trouble, girls get the short end. It's even harder when you have a girl with this, and AD/HD is suddenly unpopular again. Happens to my daughter about every 2 years (meaning they take it seriously, so far, about 1 year out of every 3. Sometimes, they take it seriously for 2 whole years in a row! Then we are right back to square one, and I start sending articles to teachers again.

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