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26 Aug 2010 @ 5:13 PM
JulesFree Join Date: Thu 26th Aug 2010
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Need your advice (concerned Mom of 8 year old boy)

My son is 8 years old and is in the 2nd grade. We purposely enrolled him in a Junior Kindergarten (JK) when he was 5, Kindergarten at age 6, 1st grade age 7, etc... He is reading at at 3.4-4.5 reading level per the acclerated reader program. Math comes extremly easy for him as well. He is in his 4th week of school and we are having behavioral problems. These are problems that I've seen before: non-stop talking, will not stay in his seat, interupts the teacher, blurts out the answers to questions. He is super sweet, willing to help everyone and generally becomes friends with the students that are struggling. In fact so far this year his best friend is a little boy who is repeating the 2nd grade. His teacher has asked for our help in consquences of his behavior at home which we are always willing to work with the teacher on what works best. His teacher is extremly organized and is very strict about the rules in her class room. She wants them to learn self control during this year. She expects quiet in her classroom unless it's time to talk and she expects you to remain in your seat unless you have permission to be up. He has to abide by the classroom rules or he gets a card pulled. We are coming home daily with 3-4 cards pulled. This mean no recess at school and then he gets in trouble at home. Last night he came home and said "I'm the worst kid in the whole world, no one wants to play with me because I'm bad all the time" I just sat and cried to hear him say these things. He normally is an extremly happy little boy who smiles and laughes all the time. He bounces when he walks and only knows one speed and that is fast. He plays flag football, basketball, and baseball and is a really good athlete.

So I have a athletic, intelligent (all A's so far this year) 8 year old little boy who can't stop himself from talking, bursting out answers and can't stay in his seat. I've been reading infomation on ADHD and there are symptoms that seem to fit and others that don't. He has a memory like an elephant and doesn't forget anything. We struggle with following directions - not that he can't follow them but that he wants to set his own directions. He is very stubborn and extremly competitive (always wants to be the first one).

He is an only child. I'm thinking about starting some Fish Oil supplements and something called Attentive Child to see if his helps.

Any ideas??

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28 Aug 2010 @ 10:21 AM Reply # 1
adhdmomma Join Date: Fri 4th Jun 2010
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twice exceptional

There is a thing called "twice exceptional" and it's used to describe children who are gifted and ADHD. My son is just about to turn 8 and twice exceptional. He has tested high on intelligence testing (in the gifted range) but then low in the processing portion of these tests due to his ADHD and attention differences. Only a medical professional (http://www.additudemag.com/adhd-web/article/565.html) can evaluate and diagnose your son but he sounds so similar to my son. Treatment for the ADHD, especially accommodations in the classroom, have helped us tremendously.

If he is struggling in the classroom, advocate for your son and work with the school to secure accommodations in the classroom. Here's an article outlining the steps to take: http://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/711.html.

Hang in there!

Penny W., ADDitudemag.com & ADDConnect.com Community Moderator

ADHD Momma to Luke, age 7

creator of {a mom's view of ADHD} @ http://adhdmomma.blogspot.com

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30 Aug 2010 @ 7:51 PM Reply # 2
johnsmom Join Date: Wed 7th Oct 2009
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teacher very strict

I also have an 8 year old boy and we have put him on ritalin because he could not succeed with friends or in school.....it helped him a lot....in your case, I think maybe a less-uptight teacher is needed...can he be moved ? Sometimes, sexist though it sounds, a male teacher is better for our son...

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7 Sep 2010 @ 5:02 PM Reply # 3
WittsEnd Join Date: Mon 10th May 2010
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new teacher?

I can feel your pain and frustration. My son has the same problems with remaining in his seat and talking. I would suggest talking with the school and his teacher and try to come to some sort of agreement to help with with his activity. A few of the things that I have done or have heard done for other students are: taping a box around his desk for some "wiggle room" and as long as he remains in the box he doesn't get a card pulled. It sounds like he doesn't have any trouble getting his work done, so is there some sort of tasks/errands that the teacher can give him once he has completed his work to help keep him busy? Can he help "tutor" other students who aren't picking up on the material as fast as he is? As for blurting out the answers, I'm not sure what to suggest for that, but ask around, the school may even have suggestions. Every year I have to fight to make sure that my son doesn't lose any recess time for his behavior, as you know, they need all of the energy releases that they can get. Right now the only time he is held in for recess is if the entire class is. If your current son's teacher isn't' willing to help your son succeed and believe me the constant "being in trouble" does wear on them, request another teacher who is more flexible. Talk with the other parents if you don't know the teachers to help decide which one would be the best fit. Good Luck!

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