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Change Is Tough
I'm an ADD wife with a grouchy, tidy, bipolar husband. He plods along methodically; I whirl. I was able to manage my own tidying/neatness until we had 2 kids; then the house became more than I could manage. In my experience, moving will solve things for only a short time. We moved to a larger house so we'd have more living space and storage, thinking that would make everything better. It lasted only a few months. Here's what you've got to do, in my opinion. Put your essentials--cell phone/iPod, coffee maker, toothbrush, meds--in one box. Put 5 changes of clothing in another box. When you move, unpack those two boxes (and your computer), and nothing else. I am quite serious. If you have papers to file, put them in a big accordion folder on a shelf. If there's some other endeavor or hobby that's essential to your happiness, pack ONE box with the bare minimum of tools/supplies you need for that. Since the kitchen is another common nexus of mess, unpack one plate, one cup, one set of silverware per person... one frying pan, one saucepan, one spoon... you get the idea. Try living like this for six months. This is what I am working toward for myself, thoug t's harder having to manage not only my stuff but the stuff of 2 other people (little kids)--still, I am still working toward my dream of having only a few essential things. Messes are inevitable... but less stuff means fewer and smaller messes. When multiple messes accumulate, I'm doomed... it all starts to become part of the backdrop, and I stop noticing them--the way you probably didn't notice the food left out on the stove. (I do that one a LOT.) Seriously... stuff sucks. Do as much of your life outside your home as you can. Example: If you're a reader, frequent the library instead of buying books. OK, I've gone on long enough, but I feel your pain, and I wanted to try and share some thoughts that have been brewing in my mind for a long time. Keep us posted!
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16 Aug 2010 @ 9:43 AM
19 Aug 2010 @ 11:07 AM