I , too, wish I knew how to talk candidly to my spouse about adhd. I was diagnosed a year ago and I feel like my husband believes it is just an excuse to be lazy. He seems to think it is a mind over matter thing and I just need to make a decision to get things done. I , well our whole family, has had a year that was rough enough to be a decade. I was having serious problems at my job when I was diagnosed, I feared my THREE year old was showing signs of adhd, so I looked in to it online and realized I have had this my whole life and no one noticed. I'm 35. In the third grade I was in remedial math, reading, spelling, and speech class. I transferred to a bigger school from a tiny church school and I did nothing but watch the other kids all day long. Missed all my recesses because it took me all morning to complete 4 math problems. I don't want my son to go through any of that. There was no adhd diagnosis in the early eighties. Like my husband, my family would have thought it was nonsense and tried to "beat" it on our own. So while I cannot give you advise, I feel your pain, and I will wait patiently (ha ha) for the answer. I'm married to a good man..he's a good dad and provider. His own defense mechanisms just cause him to "shut off" when I mention adhd and things I learn. I get so excited and I want to share because the diagnosis was like a key and I am able to open all these doors now. So, I am freeloading on your answer...How do I get my husband to understand???

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