Yes, its true. The invention of the internet has made the process of meeting people much more easier with the invention of "dating" sites, social networking sites and chat sites such as IRC (Internet Relay Chat).

Whether you've had a girlfriend or not is not that major, as long as you put in the profile what makes you unique. You should talk about who you are, what you enjoy doing, what makes you special. I found that if I mention the words having ADHD most people would run away except for those that understand what it is. However, I did a personality test and came up with an ENFP personality type. Extraverted, iNtuitive, Feeling, Perceiving and when I read more about the "personality" it reminded me of ADHD. Yet, I get a lot of women of all ages who are interested in being friends because that's what they want in a guy. Someone who is passionate..... having ADHD is a bonus. The secret to success is to be yourself, be honest and open and you will find (as I did myself) that you're drawn to people who are intelligent and interesting as we're stimulated by intellectual conversations. If you need a hand with what to write in the profile, just drop me a line.

In relation to what am you're supposed to do.... just be yourself, mention that you are shy at first but when you feel comfortable with a person or get some liquid courage you open up. Women will understand, if they don't then they're the ones that you will not find interesting. Online dating works, just be patient and don't stress about it.

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I've been doing the online dating thing pretty much since it was invented. It was actually much easier for me when there were less people doing it. I've met quite a few people, had good and bad experiences and more importantly made quite a few friends. I'm by no means an expert but her are some things I have come to realize.

1. Guys are still expected to make the first move. Just like in real life this isn't always true but for the most part you're going to have to put the effort in. Oh and girls, please ignore this statement.

2. As a guy you will most likely have to msg many girls before you get a response. Don't take it personally if someone you think is a good match doesn't respond. Wait awhile and try again with possibly a diffrent approach. Ladies on the other hand are going to get a lot of responses and will probably spend some time filtering them. Men might get 1 in 5 responding back and women will get 1 in 5 that are not just after sex. Completely made up statistic but you get the idea.

3. Read their profiles! A good way to break the ice is to ask questions about something you find on their profile that interests you. Show them that you are going off of more than how they look in their picture.

4. Be honest. Pretending you are someone you are not, MIGHT get you a first date, but the real you will come out eventually.

5. Know the site you are using. Free ones include OKCupid, Plenty of Fish and Craigslist. OKcupid is one of the more thorough sites. One thing to keep in mind is people will be able to see when you have viewed their site. If you are viewing someone more than once send atleast a quick msg so they dont' think you are stalking them. I don't have my experiece with Plenty of Fish but it seems decent. Craigslist will get you a lot of spam. Watch for horrible engilsh, anyone directing you to a diffrent website or even a hint that they are looking to be paid. I used Yahoo personals before they went to a fee for service but haven't since. Match.com gives guarantees but I haven't put them to the test. E-Harmony will not accept you if they catch even a wiff of ADHD.

6. Statistically the longer you wait to make a date with someone, the less likely you'll ever meet up. I've had online friends for 20 years who I've never met in person. A few have lived within a few miles of me.

7. Have a friend you trust to review your profile. Someone of the opposite sex would be good, one of each would be better.

That's all I can think of. Good luck.

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Thanks for the tips. I guess you are both right...just putting yourself out there should be the best approach. I've always found it weird connecting to strangers over the web, but if its worked for others than its worth a shot.

What do people feel about Speed Dating events? I've always been curious to try them, but have this vision of a room full of A-Type business people sizing each other up for the kill. I'm way more of a creative type, and wasn't sure if its possible to find those types at speed dating nights.

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I had sucess with e_harmony.

Perhaps it is best to be on your meds when you do the questionair? I met a gal who is long term depressed but also well controlled. (Death of her son). The nice thing about e-harmony was the limited ability to interact at first. Could only use questionaires and short comments later on. This made things go slower and more security. Anyway, that is how ot was 6 years ago. We have been married 5 years last month. I was diagnosed at age 8, did the ritalin thing, and am now nearing retirement on vyvanse. Only reason I hit the marriage market was the death of my wife of 29 years that put up with me. Good luck, There is someone or two out there for us all. Just keep at it....Ken

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With the internet, that are two very possible outcomes... (there are others, but...)

1. you increase your exposure to good potential matches, and people that can get to know you before superficial first impressions.

or

2. You can create a persona that exists in the cyber-world only, but isn't really you. This gets lots of superficial response, but will never transfer to reality.

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