I'm hoping that this subject has been posted in the appropriate forum..if not I do apologize. I really, really would so appreciate a bit of guidance with a touchy sort of subject for us. My 13 year old granddaughter who lives with us has been doing gymnastics for quite a number of years now. Started with one gym and it seemed to us they didn't know how to handle a student with ADD/ADHD. After careful consideration we moved to another gym. It has worked out wonderful until she went from a pre-teen to full fledged teen. She was asked to join Team which thrilled us all and for the most part has worked out ok. With a busy gym full of girls all doing pretty much different things at the same time she's done fairly well. There are times where her mind will wander but the coaches have said not a problem. There "are" times where she's get a bit testy with her "mouth" but has never been a problem with various activities or ever at school. Her behavior is always spot on. She is in therapy and has been to handle the school learning issues due to ADD and life challenges and was just reevaluated with a psychiatric NP who basically said she's doing pretty good, we just increased .5mgs on her med before the end of school. My question is...she had an issue at the gym last week. Was doing something she's had problems with in the past because of a fear with heights and was getting totally frustrated. To make things worse she blurted out..."screw this" and boy the earth opened up. I was motioned over by the coach she normally does not work with but he is doing the summer Team classes. I was never so mortified!! He was in my face about unacceptable language and because of the Level she is in there are other younger girls in the class. After taking me to task and my granddaughter he dismissed her for the day. Never has this happened. And her regular coach who tends to discuss matters openly echoed right behind him and demanded she apologize. Naturally she was hysterically crying, I would believe she understood her mistake. Consequences have been done here at home. She tends to be impulsive and doesn't think of outcomes before the thought. Mouth first, thought second. Needless to say, we have a great deal of money involved here, she was afraid to go back to practice yesterday and I didn't want to force her right now.

Does anyone else have children involved in sports and is this a norm for ADD/ADHD kids? I have no one to discuss this with as therapy has been put on hiatus till her psychologist returns from maternity leave. I just wanted the ground to swallow me up and have been sleeping fitfully since. She's so good at gymnastics, gets defeated sometimes, we done competitions and she's been good. I just don't know how to handle the subject with her to get her back to the gym. It's like I feel they'll single her out as a "bad kid" now :( Any advice would be wonderful! Thanks!

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