It sounds like you have an idea of how your medication schedule might have affected your communication in this situation. But apart from that, "instant gratification" tools like texting and emails can be a real challenge for those of us with ADHD. Because they are limited to words (and not other forms of communicating emotional content), texts might not provide enough assurance to slow things down when someone is anxious. It might be good to address anxiety and self-esteem uncertainties with a therapist or counselor, and they might recommend that you practice Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. It's a way of being your own detective when things seem like they are getting out of control. There are a few easy to remember concepts which will help you decide if your imagination is leading you astray. Here is a great article - http://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/912.html - be sure to look at the second page to meet the common culprits that can distort our thinking...and lead us to over-texting. Good luck!

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When worry strikes you, pray & give it all to God with thanks, earnestly & humbly. :) When it comes up again in your mind do it again, & again, & again. REfocusing on God &/or breathing during meditation does wonders for our self control & focus over time. Like exercise it must be practiced regularly. I understand a lot of ADDer's have trouble with this it is hard; it helps me to use some yoga CD's to help me focus in. Also mediating out in nature. The great thing about prayer & breathing exercises is you can do them anywhere. It works if you work it! :)

When you are in a place of peace without any selfish drive or motives then go talk to him, when you can focus on what matter's God & others. :)

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I appreciate Heatwalk's openness and the responses given; went right to Tom's suggested link and printed the article. These postings are as much help as anything, when people such as yourselves bother to share. Thank you. To add my two cents' worth: I've learned that ADDers can be more intensely emotional (for better and worse) than the general population. This may or may not be true in any given situation. But, for me, the challenge is sometimes that nobody else SHOWS how upset, indignant, sorry, happy, disappointed, ecstatic, etc., they are. Texting and emailing are especially poor emotional venues, but even in another's presence I can feel like the only one who REALLY CARES. Maybe this is another form of distorted thinking, that another's calm (or lack of caps!) implies lack of concern or passion. As familiarity grows, I can read my friends' emotions better, and I've learned that ever-calm people can balance and complement my intensity. But interactions with them can also be a source of frustration for both of us if our capacities for intensity are too different. Thanks again for helping articulate these challenges we all juggle!

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