Anne - I know this is really frustrating for you. My husband and son are both ADHD - please remember, he's your son, love him, be patient with him. He's likely lying because he's afraid of being in trouble or disappointing you. He really can't help it. He wants to do better. How you react to him will set his path and his self esteem for a life time. He's brilliant. Homework and organization are NOT a measures of someone's intelligence. It's also not a measure of his value and worth. I have a mantra that those with ADHD are not wrong they are just different. School is not set up well for them. Medication can do great things if you choose to go that route. Take the long view of the person you want to raise not the grades you want them to get. Affirm his worth, love him.

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ok. Listen you have to give some sympathy. My dad is ADHD and still thinks I'm lying. I'm ADHD and it is really hard to remember things sometimes, even when I'm medicated

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I feel for you. but, have you ever told him, yes you remembered, just didn't want to do it? And, have you ever really done that?

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I think my son does just plain forgets quite often, but also conveniently forgets quite often and therefore also lies at times. He's organizational skills are terrible and doing well in school is not a priority to him.

My son will be a junior this year-last year he went from being an A/B Honors student to C/D barely squeaking by on a couple of courses. Needless to say he is no longer an Honors student. Last year the school went to a "Edline" system where you could see your student's gradebook online each time it's updated. I saw first hand how many assignments he missed and consequently the poor grades on tests. This year he will have an accommodation plan that will require use a a planner in which the teacher signs it each class. I don't know if he will buy into this but this way he will not have to remember or lie to me-it will just be written down. I know he's getting old for this but better late than never!

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Take it easy. :) You need to stay calm and focus on how to help your son with homework. You need to help your kid with homework by organizing his things so that it will be easier learn. This harbors a positive environment thus helps in learning. Have routines with him in doing the homework and focus and learning the problems and not on getting it done with a high grade in mind. It is also important to give praises on his progress because this helps the kid's self-esteem and helps having a positive learning environment. :) Good luck :)

Source: Creating a Positive Learning Environment for ADHD Children --> http://www.add-adhd-teen-help.com/add-adhd/parenting-adhd-kids-creating-a-positive-learning-environment-for-adhd-children.html

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