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An idea for use at home
Dont know if anyone's still checking this post. I'm a single parent, and I work into the early evening 1-2 times per week. Once my daughter was old enough to stay home for a few hours on her own, I really didn't have any good options for transportation, etc. I work nearby so I'm able to come home for "lunch" to check on things. AD/HD or not, my daughter's routine at home is pretty darn good. When I first started this, we had a "family meeting" to discuss it, and I posted a list of emergency info by the phone, rules (like not having people over and when to call me at work, etc.) and I put together a chart of things I wanted her to remember to do every day, with a point system that resulted in rewards. We talked about all of this, and the "tasks" were things like doing homework, getting things ready for the next day, etc., I had also taken her to a study skills class over the summer, part of a research project that was somehow connected with Sandy Maynard (a well-known AD/HD specialist and coach, I think?). Between both of these things, I found out that breaking down the steps, offering positive incentives, and stepping back did more good than any amount of hovering, pressuring, and "applying consequences" ever did. It was a real self-esteem boost for my daughter, to show me she could be trusted to do this herself, she just needed to know how.
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